Carolina Comments: Observing the 250th

With temperatures reaching 101 here for several days, we have barely ventured outside.  It is definitely the hottest week I can ever recall experiencing!  Today’s high is slated to be only 98.  

On Friday, residents where we live participated in a reading of the Declaration of Independence in its entirety before an audience.  The document was divided into 33 sections, and 31 of us each read a section (one couple took two sections each.) Lined up in order to keep things moving, we stepped to the podium, read our piece, and then sat down.  

Having not read this document or at least not all the way through, it was a moving and meaningful experience, both the words and sentiments, but also hearing so many different voices.  I was #27 in the line-up, and I chose my piece because of its first sentence.  “A Prince whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the rule of a free people.”  The capital letters are in the original document, and I thought this statement was particularly apt for today’s times.

As part of this program, we all said the Pledge of Allegiance and then sang the national anthem.

(carytownband.org)

The night of July 3rd, the Chief Penguin and I attended a downtown concert with narration and video images presented by the Cary Town Band.  Founded in 1987, with just sixteen members, the band now consists of 50 volunteer musicians.  It plays free concerts at a variety of special events each year.

In years past, in Swarthmore, PA, we loved attending the town’s annual 4th of July parade.  A small series of floats, lots of kids on their decorated bikes, and a chance to chat with one’s neighbors, followed by rides around town on the fire truck.  As I recall, our son adorned his bicycle with crepe paper one year and joined the parade.  In Florida, we didn’t attend any parades, but from our lanai overlooking Sarasota Bay, we could usually see fireworks go up-up in about ten different towns ringing the water.  Often, we got together with friends to celebrate this night.

The Cary Town Band is wind instruments, percussion, and brass as one would expect. The music was wide ranging, opening with The Federal March (1788) celebrating the adoption of the U. S. Constitution, and then the Armed Forces Salute, including the songs for each force from the army to the new Space Force.  What came next was a series of pieces, many unfamiliar, but selected to go along with a specific era in our history.  Beginning in 1776 and then advancing in 50-year increments from 1826 all the way up to 2026.  It was rousing music accompanied by historic images and text on a big screen; a history lesson that did not gloss over or omit our nation’s shortcomings.  Overall, it was a wonderful performance combining inspiration and appreciation for all that came before.

And yes, we said the pledge to the flag and sang the Star-Spangled Banner.  Twice in one day for me.  

Fatima Ali (penguinrandomhouse.com)

Fatima Ali was a young Pakistani chef who came to the United States as a child, studied at the Culinary Institute of America (CIA), and aspired to one day own her own restaurant.  She was ambitious, determined, and had lofty goals.  She also wanted to do something to address hunger and poverty in her home country.  Alas, her life was cut short by a rare cancer.

Savor is an unusual memoir in that its primary sources are Ali’s essays, journal entries, and in-depth conversations that her co-author Tarajia Morrell had with her over the course of one intense week.  To provide more context for Fatima’s life, her mother, Farezeh Durrani, bares her soul and shares the story of her arranged marriage and divorce, along with other family secrets and regrets.  

The result is a very personal family history interspersed with details of Pakistani culture and its food.  Fatima extols the variety of Pakistani dishes with their fragrant spices as she advances her career, cooking in a variety of restaurant settings in New York and then competing in the Food Network series, Chopped, and eventually on Top Chef.   Along the way, she loves the greater freedom for women here while missing aspects of home.  It’s a rich book full of food and a young woman’s zest for life.  Recommended! (~JWFarrington)

I can think of no one I know who likes going to the dentist. Even for a cleaning.  Earlier this week, the C. P. and I visited our local practice which is across the street and down a ways.  I like my hygienist a lot and was pleased to see her since she had been out due to a skiing injury.  As I was leaving her room, she said, “You are Patient of the Week.  You get to take home the flowers.” Lo and behold, indeed, we did get to take a lovely bouquet of flowers in a tall glass vase.  First, a photo of both of us (yes!), and then you-know-who carried my flowers home.  Why me?  Why the middle of the week?  Do they do this every week?  The flowers were very fresh, not at all wilted, and they still look good 5 days later. Almost enough incentive to go back to the dentist’s office!

Happy July 4th weekend to you all!

Carolina Comments: Big Birthdays & Grantchester

Two of my siblings and the Chief Penguin have summer birthdays, one in June, one in July, and one in August.  

Chief Penguin earlier this spring

This year, this trio is turning 70, 75, or 80.  It seemed the right time for a family celebration.  The C.P. and I see the North Carolina relatives, my two sisters and spouses often and my nieces and their families less frequently. 

We hadn’t seen my brother and sister-in-law from the Finger Lakes region for almost three years.  Thus, the Milestone Birthday Party yesterday. Almost everyone came including our son and family from Manhattan!  (We missed my brother’s daughters and their families who were only present in photos. Another time!)

This was also an opportunity for the cousins of the two younger generations to spend time together.

Niece Erica & family
First cousins!
Watching gift opening, Pat & others

It was a lively 36 hours beginning with an Indian lunch in Chapel Hill for the four siblings and spouses. The Chief Penguin and I also enjoyed dinners and ice cream in hopping downtown Cary with Tim and Jen and our granddaughters.  An all-around good time with lots of laughter! 

Entire family group (minus sister-in-law Pat who took the photo!)

 I think we created some lasting memories, especially for the youngest generation.

After three vicars and eleven seasons, Grantchester is finally winding up its last season.  The Chief Penguin and I have been loyal viewers since the beginning.  We have liked watching police detective Geordie deal with Sydney, Will, and now Alphy, distinctive vicars who assist him in solving local crimes.  The supporting cast of housekeeper and friend, Mrs. C.; the caring and sometimes doleful curate Leonard; and Geordie’s wife Cathy, who embraces new opportunities for women, add richness and depth to the series.

Geordie & Alphy, Mrs. C. & Cathy, Larry & Miss Scot (tvinsider.com)

In this final season, Geordie has an offer of a promotion, life changes for Miss Scott and Larry Peters, and Alphy confronts head-on his mother’s past and present.  It is partly a tying up of earlier issues but also settling the characters comfortably for whatever lies ahead.  Recommended!

Note: Family photos taken by JWFarrington, EBWalter, & P. Walter.

Carolina Comments: Watching, Reading, Eating

Mary in the middle flanked by her sisters (townandcountrymag.com)

Mary Bennet is the odd sister out.  Very smart, but plain compared to her other sisters, she is harassed, berated by her mother, and oftentimes just ignored by her many siblings.  In Jane Austen’s Pride & Prejudice, she is viewed as having no marital prospects, while her sisters all gain husbands.  

The Other Bennet Sister begins with the scenario in Austen’s novel but then goes beyond it to create a world and another life for Mary.  She spends time in London with her aunt and uncle, acting as a fill-in governess for their children.  The Gardiners introduce her to London social life, and Mary meets and even captures the attention of two very different young men, Charles Ryder and Tom Hayward.  But her mother intervenes, thus providing more challenges for Mary to overcome.  

There are 10 episodes and they are short, just 30 minutes each.  Those familiar with Mrs. Bennet’s managing ways and Caroline Bingley’s superiority complex will delight in their portrayals here. Highly recommended for Jane Austen fans! 

Author Strout (Britannica.com)

Elizabeth Strout’s new novelThe Things We Never Say, is set in Massachusetts, not Maine, and none of the characters are familiar from her earlier works.  No Olive Kittredge here.  Instead, we have high school history teacher, Artie Dam, husband, father, and a lonely man.  At 57, Artie is distressed by the state of the world (it is not said directly, but the book opens just before Trump’s second term), somewhat depressed, sad in his marriage, and generally out of sorts.  

But he is a good teacher and frequently shows compassion toward difficult students (his wife Evie considers him “soft.”)  He obsesses over whether humans have free will, and in his spare time loves sailing alone on the bay in his boat.  When his son Rob shares a secret with him, Artie is initially both unsettled and doubtful.  The knowledge of this secret brings father and son closer together, and they begin to communicate regularly with each other, texting and phoning.  In many ways, the expansion of their relationship is the most significant one in the novel.

Through Artie, Strout explores how families and friends communicate or don’t, delving into the secrets and fears individuals keep to themselves or share only selectively with someone outside the family.  More than any of Strout’s works that I know, this is a political novel, quietly so.  U. S. politics with all its disruption, division, and angst is an underlying thread surfacing only fully in Artie’s unexpected friendship with Ken.  Some readers may find this novel dreary; I found it thoughtful and memorable.  Recommended! (~JWFarrington)

On the wall at Q Noodles

If you have a hankering for soup dumplings or any kind of noodles, a visit to Q Noodles would be most satisfying.  Tucked away in a less visible part of a strip mall behind DQ and Paris Baguette, it can be easy to overlook this restaurant.  In fact, I had never spotted it before our lunch here this past week.

The menu is extensive and includes a variety of pork and chicken buns, steamed and panfried dumplings, dim sum, and hot and cold noodle dishes, along with sweet and savory rice offerings.  Our table of ten shared two combination towers of dim sum (tasty) besides what we ordered individually.  I opted for the Sichuan beef noodle soup. In a big bowl, it was nicely spicy and enough for a second lunch the next day.  The Chief Penguin went for the Ybin spicy dry noodles with minced pork.  His dish was really spicy, and he loved it.  Lots of the other dishes are mild and would appeal to those who aren’t fans of spicy fare.  

Dining room, Q Noodles

The dining room is very attractive with its wall poster and inviting seating.  Service was friendly, but leisurely; we were definitely ready when the food arrived.  Q Noodles is so close that the C.P. and I could easily walk there—who knows when we will next want to satisfy a noodle craving!

Note: Restaurant photos ©JWFarrington (some rights reserved.)

Carolina Comments: A Library & A Novel

Main floor with views to the outside

Earlier this week, we had the fun of touring the impressive Hunt Library at North Carolina State University in Raleigh.  Around here, the university is commonly known as just State.  Good friends, Frank and Judy, were our hosts and arranged for a wonderful tour led by staff from the library development office.  

Lower level lounge

The Hunt Library opened in 2013 and is a contemporary building of an unusual shape with glass and metal facades.  Tall glass window walls allow the outside in with views of Lake Raleigh.  Many spaces are long and expansive with great light and views punctuated by a variety of creative and unusual seating choices.  

This library was one of the first to install a robotic book storage and retrieval system called bookBot.  Almost 2 million books are stored in metal bins stacked 50 feet high.  The books are in random order, but an order known to the system.  We got to see behind the scenes and watch a bin of books being retrieved and brought out by Robot Bob.  There are several robots and all but one have names.  Our State magazine included an entertaining account by Scott Huler of what it’s like to be in this library.

Former, now deceased, university library director Susan Nutter was instrumental, possibly aggressively so, in gaining the libraries greater recognition on campus and in expanding the services and assistance they offered to both students and faculty.  From audio labs to a maker space to a gaming studio, Hunt Library pushed the envelope.

Gaming studio

Nutter also had an interest in furnishings, and Hunt features a wealth of stunning chairs by different designers in a wide range of colors.  

While the backdrop is mostly neutral, as in white, there are punches of color everywhere making even big spaces inviting.  

Several yellow staircases make a particularly bold statement.  And yet, a student can still easily find a place for some quiet study in a room looking more like the traditional library of yore.

Quiet study space

BONUS SUMMER READING: FAMILY DYNAMICS

Whistler by Ann Patchett

Patchett (wikipedia.com)

I am one of Ann Patchett’s fans, and I loved her new novel, Whistler.  It’s a quiet book of reflection and review about one’s childhood and one’s choices, prompted by the return of a stepfather.  The book opens with Daphne Fuller and her husband Jonathan looking at exhibits in the Metropolitan Museum in New York.  Having just been to the Met twice last month, I was with them immediately and could easily picture their movement through the galleries.  Jonathan thinks a man is following them, Daphne dismisses the comment, and yet the man is indeed dogging their steps.  They meet and Daphne re-connects with Eddie Triplett, the stepfather she has not seen since she was 9, and she is now 53.

Daphne’s parents divorced when she was a child, and her mother remarried twice; hence, Daphne had a father and two stepfathers, but her favorite was Eddie.  What follows is both lovely and loving as Eddie and Daphne spend precious time together cherishing every encounter.  Daphne re-visits childhood events, sharing and dissecting them with her sister Leda, who is a therapist.  In the process, Daphne acquires an adult understanding of why her mother and Eddie separated and a new perspective on how her own life has been colored by the family disruptions of her youth.  Highly recommended!

As I was reading this novel, I felt the echoes of an essay I’d read by Patchett some years before.  The idea of several fathers stuck with me, so I did a bit of sleuthing and re-discovered “My Three Fathers” with the tagline “My problems were never ones of scarcity.  I suffered from abundance.”   It was in the September 28, 2020, issue of The New Yorker and is a touching account of how each of Ann Patchett’s fathers brought something different and important to her life.  It too is worth reading. (~JWFarrington)

Note: All library photos ©JWFarrington (some rights reserved.)